A view from within:We have read lots and lots on child abuse in Jersey. We have all seen the content of the crank blogs, the nutter’s blog, the Voice For Anything blogs, the Rico Tribute Blog to the Battle of Britain Blog and of course the Historic Child Abuse enquiry.
We are about to lose David Warcup because of the persistent interference of a vociferous few States Members, Bob Hill, Trevor Pitman, Daniel Wimberley, Montfort Tadier and Carolyn Labey. They all subscribe to the conspiracy, cover-up and oligarch theories on how the Island is run. The purpose of this post is to turn this view round to another view. Whatever about historic child abuse on the Island, the real and apparent child abuse is happening all about us on this island as we speak.
There are men and women out there in our society bringing children into this world and they are unfit to be parents. They do not have the life skills to be a parent, they do not really want to be a parent but do because they get more Income support. It is an Island scandal.
There are 15 year old girls that deliberately get pregnant so that they can get themselves housed by either the housing trusts or the Housing department. They drink and smoke to excess during the pregnancy. Many of these girls cannot cope then with being mothers because they do not have the skills needed. Some babies suffer from fetal alcohol syndrome, the baby suffers health issues because the mother smokes, does not know how to cook and all food comes out of an Iceland box, how to keep a place clean, how to use a washing machine and these girls remain dependent on Income Support for years and years because they keep having babies.
This is child abuse big time. However, it is accepted in our society and therefore nothing is done about it. What of the fathers, these sperm donors, these pillars of Jersey society that produce four different children by four different mothers? They are easy to spot in town. Many of them wear the hoodie uniform, most of them smoke and drink heavily, many are unemployable and a great many share one common boast.
They do not pay maintenance to support the children they spawn and our States departments hardly ever take them to court. This is more child abuse because these bozos are in and out of la Moye, can’t get jobs, don’t want jobs and their children are being brought up in single parent families by girls that do not have the skills to be parents.
Then we get the couples and the word is used loosely that do have children and should never have in the first place. Some of our States Departments are on the front line here and pick up the pieces. In this case, one of them might have a part-time job though unlikely.
They are mostly on Income Support, Yet Kevin Lewis, Jackie Hilton and a host of States members will tell you that their houses and flats are full of flat screen TV’s, the children have Ipod’s and the latest X-Box, there is a fairly respectable car outside and a £300 McLaren buggy in the hall. You usually notice the house or flat is also full of smoke and that the children, dog, £1,000 African grey in the corner are all passive smokers. This is child abuse.
Five States Departments are in the frontline here, Health and Social Services, Social security, Housing, Education and Home Affairs. Three years ago, in Terry Le Main’s time, the Housing Department warned the Health Department about a family it had concerns about. Social Services investigated and said there was not an issue.
The Police were called in and about a year later the father was jailed for incest. This is child abuse. In recent times, the Home Affairs Department and the Police are taking a far more aggressive line in investigating child abuse because it is ongoing in Jersey. In Education, truancy from school is being investigated and officers in Education now act far more quickly. Teachers in Jersey come across children that do not know how to use a table and chair, a knife and fork and even how to use a basic toilet bowl.
Child abuse in Jersey need not be of a sexual nature. It is about bullying, bad parenting and in many cases utterly dysfunctional parenting. Bringing a child into the world was at one time almost 100% based on the family unit. Well, that has gone out the door. The family unit does not exist. Some children do not know what a knife and fork is for or what it is like to eat a proper cooked meal with a parent or parents at a kitchen table. They eat on their laps in front of a TV or a laptop.
Some unfortunate children suffer the excesses of a bad parent or parents. Now society gives a financial incentive to have babies. It is called welfare or income support. Now 16 year olds march into Housing and Social Security demanding their rights to Income Support and Housing. They can smoke and drink but they cannot boil an egg or peel a potato. Three weeks after giving birth to a baby, a 16 year old mother can poke someone’s eye out with a stiletto heel outside Chamber’s and spit and swear at a Magistrate.
The mother and father of this baby are both in La Moye, doing long sentences for grave and criminal assault. They are not fit to be parents. This baby should be put up for adoption and given to parents who are fit to take care of it. This is child abuse because this baby’s chances of leading any kind of normal life are highly unlikely with these two as parents.
Do we hear mention of any of this on this various blogs? Of course not. They are so mesmerised by their own dictatorial egos and blog ranting that they miss the bigger picture. They do not want to acknowledge life all around them. In the scenarios painted above, it is the parent or parents in the vast majority of cases that abuse their children.
It is physical health abuse, mental health abuse, emotional health abuse, depravation, ignorance, stupidity and self serving selfishness. The ever suffering Jersey tax payer picks up the tab. The irony of this is that nearly all of this is perfectly legal. Some Social Services people think there is some good in these parents and that they can be changed. We spend an absolute fortune on these Social Services people and the results are mixed. Social Services people do not have to live on the same estate or block of flats as these people. These are the people that kick off on housing estates and in blocks of flats that are a nightmare to live close to.
Then, if their loud music, shouting and swearing does not drive you mad, then their hoards of feral children running round causing mayhem will drive you mad. We need to put them all out on the Minquiers with one supply boat a month. Rob Duhamel could build a city out there from stacked 40’ containers and let them all have a permanent party. Leave the children here though and get them adopted. Maybe we do need to seriously need to get many more of these children fostered and adopted.
In the great State of Texas, they have come up with an incentive to slow down the rate of teenage pregnancies, especially among the Hispanic community. They offer the girls $1000 in cash to consent to a 5 year contraceptive injection. This States member wonders if it would be acceptable here, because one can hear now the howls about civil rights from one part of the Assembly. You are taking away their rights or you are interfering in the civil liberties.
The test is this. Do not have a baby unless you are working, have some income and a partner that loves you. A great many couples and families raise children properly in Jersey. However, these thousands and thousands of happy families are taxed to pay for the 1000 or so problem cases on the Island. Likewise, there are many single mums and single dads that do a great job. Most of these have work of some kind.
The children are happy well-adjusted and content and for the most part sleep in clean beds and live in happy clean homes and are happy in school. We seem to follow all sorts of UK models. If it works in the UK, it has to work here. It has to be said therefore that in Haringey Children’s Services and the NHS, this writer would not need to comment on the UK way of doing things, especially in the light of the death of Baby P, caused by it’s mother, her boyfriend and friends.
21 young children died in the UK in 2010 because of child abuse by a parent or parents. A great deal has been written about Staffordshire and Pin Down, Kincora Boys Home in Belfast, the Belgian child abuse cases and the horror of the Austrian man having an incestuous relationship with his daughter and then incarcerating her in a basement for 18 years. In Jersey, we do not have this yet, but we could have.
We do know that we have the lives of children ruined by bad parenting. We do not see any of this on the so-called Voice for Children blogs. This post is therefore dedicated to the hundreds of children out there across the Island who suffer needlessly from the ruinously bad parent or parents that brought them into the world. Perhaps the readers of this blog should notify those States Departments at the frontline of anything untoward because a lot of this bad stuff goes on out there and may not be reported.
Jackie Hilton, Kevin Lewis, Jim Perchard, Ben Shenton, Graeme Butcher, Terry Le Main, Sean Power, Eddie Noel and Anne Pryke will do something if they get the information. We need to target the type of abuse written about in this post and we need to try to bring some help to these kids. This is not historic.
It is here and now. Pick up the phone, use e-mail and do something. Tell the owners of this blog.
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